I recently had the absolute pleasure of meeting up with Tiffany Doll, a brilliant and beautiful porn star from Budapest. Having been a long time fan of her videos, I had a lot of things I wanted to ask her, especially related to more BDSM content. One of these questions was “Is choking Hot or Not?” because it’s a topic I’ve been personally interested in before, and I’ve seen her do in her videos.
Tiffany Doll was fantastic in telling me the ins and outs of her BDSM preferences. Choking to her is very hot. It’s more about the power play than the actual choking action. In fact, most breath-play (anything from choking to asphyxiation) has more to do with power and control than it does with the physical sensation. When being choked, you’re in essence letting someone else be in control of your breathing and safety. You put yourself in a vulnerable position and become submissive to them.
The important rules of choking
I’ve personally got a submissive streak, so I think I would enjoy trying out choking. There are however safety points that should be looked at before jumping in. Choking, and any other breath play can be very dangerous. I’m sure you’ve heard stories about people who have died through self-asphyxiation. The first rule is to never use a cord or tie at object around your partner’s throat. This is dangerous as you can not easily gauge the level of intensity to which your choking with, and you have less control than if you only use your hand. Secondly, if you’re wrapping something around a neck or even tying knots, then the time taken to untie and unwrap might be too long.
You shouldn’t try to actually stop the flow of breath from your partner, unless you’ve had more experience and your partner really wants to do that. It’s easier to start lightly, by simply having your hand there and showing that you’re in control. Then you can try adding a little restriction so that they are unable to speak properly, but still able to breath. Another method for choking is using the hold as a way of getting leverage from doggy style sex, often along with hair pulling. Finally, there’s the good old fashioned deep throat choking you can try out.
In conclusion, is choking hot or not? Very hot. I want to try it out, and I’m sure Tiffany Doll will help me in the future. However it should be something you and your partner discuss first, not something to surprise someone with. Always be careful when doing dangerous stuff. Now go out there and have some kinky fun!