After debating whether or not to use escorting services I decided that I would try, if for nothing else other than a new life experience. There’s also something very thrilling about the idea. With my mind set, I went about making it happen, but I’ve realised there are lots of problems booking escorts that one must look out for!
First question to ask is, how do you find escorts? Not as easy as you’d think! I asked for a lot of advice from friends. The most obvious, and objectively safest option, is to go through an agency. A quick google search will show up hundreds of agencies and hundreds and hundreds of girls on agencies. I personally didn’t want to go through this route – my reasons
Agencies take a commission from the escorts and I’d rather know the girl gets 100% of the money – she’s the one doing the work after all!
The photos of women on agency sites always look very stylised, glamorous and photoshop. I don’t feel like the women are real, and I want someone a little more normal – not oil shiny! Glamorous girls kinda make me nervous.
Going through an agency feels more clinical, like booking a doctor’s appointment!
There’s lots of ways to go about finding escorts. There’s lots of websites like craigslist or such, but there’s less sense of safety there. Another good friend of mine introduced me to “AdultWork” which I’ve heard of before because some girls cam on it. AdultWork offers more than just camming or escorts, it’s a place where women and men can offer pretty much any service in the industry, such as phone chat ect. It lets users create a profile, upload photos and basically put what they are offering. There’s a review and rating system so you can feel more secure about the girls.
It was a little overwhelming at first, there are so many profiles on it! I sorted it out by women in London and then by their rating. I went through the profiles looking for women I was attracted to and sent them inquiries. That’s one of the problems booking escorts as a girl creates, not all escorts are bisexual and not all will see purely women. Some will see couples, but won’t just have a purely lesbian encounter. Also, as my profile was brand new and I didn’t have an ratings (escorts can rate the clients, so it provides more safety for other escorts!) it made my account look more suspicious. I sent out an email to each escort I found attractive, and I was mega nervous about it!
The email went something like this:
Hello!
My name is Harriet, and honestly, I’ve never done this before. Excuse me for being a little bit nervous. I’m bi-sexual and I would absolutely love to meet you. Do you do bookings with just girls? I mean, it would just be me, not another girl. If so, could I ask when your availability is? If not, I completely understand, and thank you for reading!
From Harriet
I felt very naive and unsophisticated, but I figured the nice girls would reply and be gentle and I wouldn’t want to book a girl that isn’t nice. So in some ways the email might have helped me. A part of me still wished I was more cool about it, like James Bond or something.
Another type of girl I didn’t want to book are those working for pimps. Pimps are even worse than agencies, they are bound to take a higher percentage of the earnings, and they don’t provide the same safety measures. I had lots of advice on how to spot those that were working for pimps though!
Firstly, check if the girl states that she’s independent. Independent escorts often make a big deal out of the fact. Next, take notice if english is their first language. Although I have nothing against foreign girls, in fact, I think exotic girls are very attractive, a lot of girls who have pimps are those that come from other countries and have problems with language. The language of the profile is also a big give away. Girls who work for pimps often have set phrases that the pimps themselves write, and there’s a big difference between how women and men write. A man will write what he thinks other men want to hear, often vulgar phrases and very direct sexual phrases. Women will tend to be more subtle, talk about their personalities more and try and set a scene.
Examples of when I thought the girl worked for a pimp was when I read on a profile;
“I would love to be your bitch!” – Even as a submissive, I would never declare something like this, it feels dirty but in a cheap way.
“Come experience Candy’s unique brand of slut, I want to be face fucked hard!” – switching between first person and third person can be confusing, and I just don’t feel that someone classy would talk about being face fucked. I think instead they would try and be subtle – kiss and not tell if you know what i mean!
Even if I didn’t suspect a pimp writing the profiles, I found those descriptions a turn off anyway. Maybe because I don’t have a strap on, and so face fucking just wouldn’t do anything for me. Another tell tale sign is that they are much cheaper than everyone else. If you want quality then you should expect to pay for it, and sometimes you have to recognise a deal is too good to be true.
Out of the maybe 10 emails I’ve sent, I’ve only had two reply. AdultWork problems booking escorts would be the rejection rate – again something you may not get with agencies. However I don’t take the rejection that seriously, I knew a lot of women wouldn’t want to meet a girl, and I wouldn’t want to meet a girl that was just doing it as a job either though.
The replies I did get were very short and to the point, so I guess the next move on my part is to go from sending an email to actually calling and booking! Here are the emails I DID get though!
“Most welcome hun. Around most days. Call me. x” – Short and to the point.
“No probs babes,
I’m available mon-sat 11am-10pm x”
– Being called babes made me tingle on the inside. I also liked that she doesn’t work Sundays. I guess I’ll find out how I feel about the person after calling. Is it weird to want to know the girl a little bit before booking? Maybe that’s not how these things are done, but it’s certainly how I’m doing it!