Sexting is this brand new thing that everyone is doing. It’s so legitimate I’m pretty sure it has a spot in the English dictionary, and if it doesn’t, then it will soon. That’s not even a joke because “bootylicious” has a place in the English dictionary now. As for me though, I only started to really try it out a couple of months ago. I’m still pretty lame at it.
The definition of “sexting” as provided by Urban Dictionary is:
v: the act of text messaging someone in the hopes of having a sexual encounter with them later; initially casual, transitioning into highly suggestive and even sexually explicit
For different people I think this gets interpreted in different ways. For example, one way could be purely dirty filthy texts, like cyber sex only via mobile phone messaging. Others like to send provocative and suggestive photos, or more often that not, down right obvious photos (dick pics).
I myself have kept to suggestive and flirtatious texts, with the occasionally provocative photo thrown in. Whilst I tell myself this is so I can stay classy and mysterious, the truth is, writing harder stuff makes me super embarrassed. It’s not so big a secret, but I’m also terrible at dirty talk. Oh sure, just describe how you’d like to be fucked or whatever, but the thing is, saying it out loud makes me go bright red – not a flattering colour.
I thought that sexting would be easier, because I wouldn’t have to say anything out loud and no one would see my tomato face. This simply isn’t true. Somehow sexting can be more embarrassing because the text stays there. A little bit of text in a bubble that will remain in your phone history until you delete it, and God help me if I re-read them after sending!
Maybe I’ve gone on about all the negatives and you’re wondering “Why do you do it then? If you don’t like it?” and the answer to that is I do like it! It’s simply thrilling, it makes me feel sexy and I feel like i’m doing something a little bit naughty. Not to brag, but I’ve been getting a little better at it too. For example, when I first tried it, my text went along the lines of….
Him: Hey baby, what are you wearing?
Me: A t-shirt and jeans.
Him: Mmm. I’d love to take it off.
Me: Nah, the jeans are kinda tight and I have to do this wiggle thing like a worm.
Him: I’d let you wiggle on me.
Me: But no seriously, I think I have a wedgie *sends pic of wedgie*
Let’s just say that he never did ask me out for drinks after that. Now though, I’m basically a sexting goddess in training. Not quiet a goddess yet, but much much better.
Him: Hey baby, what are you up to?
Me: Oh just in my bedroom writing and essay. It’s so hot in here though, I’ve got nothing but my panties on. *Send’s picture of legs and panties*
Him: Wow, they’re nice. I’d like to help you cool down by taking those off.
Me: I don’t think so, you always make me feel so hot. I get wet just thinking about it.
And you can imagine how the rest goes. Still pretty vanilla as far as the sexting world continues, but I think we can all agree I’m doing much better! I’d love to hear other’s experiences with sexting though, are you amazing or has it been awkward? Feel free to email me, and I’ll put up a collection of the best stories (anonymously!)