Eat my ass. Once upon a time this was an insult. Now it’s a request appearing in more bedrooms than ever. Eating ass a.k.a ‘rimming’ is an increasingly popular foreplay on the silver screen and in the bedroom. So what is it about eating ass that’s so great?
Anal is taboo. Butts are sexy but what comes out of them is dirty, right? So why is everyone obsessed with anal sex and play with it.
It’s in human nature to move towards the forbidden things. Whether it’s eating the last cookie in the jar or simply doing something that feels good even if we’re told it’s wrong, sex is no exception.
Historically anal sex (otherwise known as ‘sodomy’) has been illegal due to the association of homosexual behaviour. Although anal sex with a woman hasn’t been criminalised in the same way, it was still taboo. ‘Buggering’ was seen as a gross misconduct yet as we all know, anal sex isn’t a new thing. The discussions around it however are more open and in the mainstream.
In porn anal has become more and more popular with foreplay devoted to the backside. Now eating ass is also rivalling the ‘vanilla’ option of licking pussy. So the question remains, why?
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There are literally hundreds of nerve endings around the anus. This is both due to close proximity to the vagina or testicles/penis and due to it being a naturally sensitive area. As a result, stimulation can prove pleasurable both internally through penetrative means and externally with touching, licking and tickling being popular.
Fingering an arsehole is a simple precursor to having sex. Touching and fingering the hole helps relax the muscles around the anus and heightens pleasure. Combining this with licking the ‘rim’ of the hole or dipping your tongue into it, can make for even more fun.
It isn’t hard to understand why going down on someone feels good. Whether you have your cock sucked or a pussy licked, it’s simple why having someone kiss, lick and suck your nether regions would feel good. The wet heat of a tongue tickles and can tease an already sensitive area in a way that increases the anticipation.
So why would it be any different with an ass? When you lick a clit, it excites your partner. Similarly, you eat her pussy to please her but also make her wetter. Whereas vaginas naturally lubricate when a woman becomes aroused, an ass cannot do so. Hence spit. Although lube is advised for anal sex, rimming is a natural way of getting things ready.
Some people might gasp at the thought of rimming. But when it feels good, why not try it?
Introduction
Firstly, I highly recommend rimming. I enjoy having my boyfriend go down on me a lot and I like anal. Hence rimming is heaven.
The taboo element of having someone go down on you is hot anyway. But when they’re licking your ass, it’s even more erotic. The nerve endings around my ‘star’ are sensitive, you know how it feels yourself when in the shower. The skin is soft and if you touch it in the right way, it tickles. Adding a tongue to the mix is genius.
While I could tell you how great it feels, I’m going to do one better. I’ll tell you how to try eating ass or ‘rimming’ your partner and hopefully, you’ll never look back!
Preparation
When you’re going to get down and dirty, a shower is good. Starting off clean and fresh for any kind of intimacy is preferable. But when anal play is on the cards, making sure you’re squeaky is a must. For the sake of hygiene, a shower with mild soap is sensible. You don’t want to irritate delicate skin though so opting for something gentle will help avoid any discomfort.
Some people may prefer to use an enema however until you’re confident doing so, a thorough shower will be fine. Before the shower, going to the toilet is a good idea if you’re feeling frisky. Anal play can make you get nervous about having accidents so getting the call of nature out of the way is good.
Once you’re comfortable and dry, getting down to business is on. Setting the lighting down low is my personal preference when in a romantic mood. But go with whatever works for you.
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Having your partner lie on her tummy with a pillow under her hips or kneel in doggy position will give you a birds’ eye view. Though laying on her back will also work and let you switch between areas easily. When you’re ready, a few teasing kisses and touches over her thighs will build the mood. Licking the delicate skin under her buttocks while moving in towards her inner thighs and between her cheeks will tickle.
Then you can lick and touch around the rim with moist fingertips. (Before any foreplay, keeping your nails short and clean is best to avoid accidents!) Tonguing the hole with a generous level of spit will get things going.
Keeping it gentle initially, you should follow your partner’s signals as to what she enjoys. Take it slow and in the same way you’d vary it up with normal oral, do the same. You can switch between holes, with a finger slipped into her pussy giving scope to heighten the pleasure.
Rimming doesn’t have to lead to full anal sex but can be an enjoyable start to fingering, playing with toys and sex itself if it appeals to both of you. When trying it for the first time, taking it slow and being in good communication will help make it the best experience possible.
Trying flavoured lube can help change up the experience while ice cubes may also heighten the fun.
Why is it so popular?
Rimming is popular as a new kind of foreplay in itself and due to the links to anal sex. We all enjoy trying something new and porn recognises the latest trends. Watching videos which feature rimming will give you an introduction to eating ass and all the fun it leads to.
Bon appetit!