Earlier this week we talked about anal sex. Well today we’re going to talk about anal sex, but specifically why you should try pegging and how to do it. What is pegging? Pegging is role-reverse anal, where the girl uses a strap on, on her male partner.
Pegging sounds like some extreme fetish, that only happens in the BDSM community and maybe by gay guys who don’t know they’re gay yet. This is certainly not true, although it does show the stigma towards the act. It’s no weirder for a man to have something up his bum than a girl is, because biologically speaking, the anus on both a man and a woman were made for the same purpose. So if anal sex is hot and sexy for a girl, why can’t it be hot and sexy for a guy?
Why guys should try pegging
Guys actually have a 1-up on girls when it comes to anal sex, because that’s where you find the male g-spot. A prostate massage can stimulate a man in new and exciting ways, and some have said it’s the best orgasm they’ve ever experienced.
Pegging is often super intimate. Why is this? Because the fact is, men feel the pressure of being “manly” and asking your partner to peg you can be seen as submissive and weak, so couples that indulge in pegging have often been together long enough that they feel completely trusting and caring of each other.
The role-reversal can be both exciting as well as educational. I believe it really does a lot in building a relationship for the two partners to swap roles. You can understand sex from the other’s perspective, and you also get a better understand of their bodies, which results in a closer bond and even better sex in the future.
Pegging: communication is most important
There’s lots of ways to get into pegging, and not all of them involves shoving a giant dildo up your ass out of nowhere. Actually, that wouldn’t happen unless you really wanted it to.
The first step is to talk to your partner about it. For guys, this can be the hardest part, because it makes you feel vulnerable and also makes you question your masculinity as well as sexuality. Wanting to do butt stuff on yourself doesn’t make you gay, it makes you feel good (which is why gay guys do it in the first place!) and it doesn’t make you less of a man any more than anal sex makes a woman less of a woman.
It’s best to be open and talk things through with your partner. You can talk about why you want to try it, how they feel and also set up when is best. It’s important to put everything on the table. It’s also really fun to talk about, it can be a new part of dirty talk for you, and you might end up finding out more things you want to experiment and try out as a couple.
A detailed guide to pegging
Before you go straight into it, it can be a good idea to play around first. Use your fingers, let your partner use her fingers and basically get an understanding of how it feels to have something enter your anus. Prostate massages can be amazing. Of course there is also analingus for the more adventurous.
The experience is best when done together, so you can go to a sex shop together and pick out a dildo and strap-on. If you’re worried about your masculinity, you can buy the strap-on online and just get the dildo in person. I recommend this because it’s nice to be able to choose the size and feel of the toy.
Next up is the lube. Lube is so important. Equally as important as the dildo in fact. The rule with lube is, if your dildo is made of silicon, then pick a water based lube. If it’s not, you can use a silicon based lube. The other rule is, use as much of it as you like, and I mean as much as you like.
Make sure you’re clean before doing. It’s best to not have eaten before trying anal things, and doing an enema can be a bed sheet saver. It’s only polite after all to be clean, but obviously there’s always a risk when it comes to butt stuff.
When you start, go slowly until you feel comfortable. Communicate a lot with your partner, tell them if it feels good, if you want to change the position or if you need more lube. There’s no need to feel embarrassed, instead just enjoy the experience together as a couple.
How it ends is completely up to the couple. Obviously your partner won’t be ejaculating into you, but you can do it until one or both of you cum. For a girl, you can have a small vibrator inside the strap-on to stimulate her. Of course, you can also just do it until you both feel satisfied, then switch back to normal sex or oral sex, or whatever you feel like!