Cock and ball torture is a BDSM fetish that you may have heard of. Commonly known as CBT, this kink has different levels to it. Beginners who are new to CBT can start off with mild pain/pleasure before advancing through to more extreme forms.
CBT is made popular in FemDom BDSM videos where a dominatrix often punishes her submissive through manipulating his genitals. For those of you who aren’t familiar with cock and ball torture, you might wonder what it includes. Why it appeals to men and wonder if CBT is safe?
Cock and ball torture 101
Cock and ball torture is pretty much what it says on the tin. Somebody voluntarily agrees to have their genitals tortured by their dominant partner. It happens a lot in the gay male community with it being a popular fetish in dungeons. But also is growing in heterosexual porn where FemDoms (female dominants/dominatrix) use it as a kind of discipline.
CBT can appeal to men for various reasons. Whether they are masochists who enjoy receiving pain as a kind of pleasure or genuinely just want to be hurt varies. CBT can also link into emasculation, chastity and cuckolding.
A FemDom may employ cock and ball torture for her own entertainment if she likes sadism. It can be tied in with cuckolding and humiliation where a woman chides the male cuck/sub about his masculinity and penis.
There is a wider range of activities within cock and ball torture than one might expect. In order of extremity from mild to advanced they can include:
- Rough handling of balls, squeezing harder than is comfortable.
- Tugging a cock roughly, giving a harsh handjob that hurts.
- Slapping the balls, biting or pinching them.
- Putting pegs or clamps on the balls to cause discomfort.
- Cock rings/chastity cages which prevent erections and can constrict the area to cause some pain.
- Abrasion play (lots of little cuts over your genitals)
- Harder slapping and pinching meant to leave bruises.
- Ball kicking and trampling/crushing.
- Electrostimulation toys, literally giving an electric shock to the genitals.
- Urethra dilation and gaping/Sounding (putting a metal rod or ‘sound’ into the urethra aka your pee hole…)
Why do people like BDSM?
Part of the reason people like cock and ball torture is because it’s a more extreme BDSM fetish. BDSM has a wide range of kinks for people to try, from mild to intermediate and extreme. BDSM is a versatile umbrella term for a lot of different things (bondage, domination, submission/sadism, masochism).
The chances are pretty high that if you explore BDSM, you’ll probably find an element of it that you enjoy. A lot of that will depend on whether you’re a dominant or submissive personality in the bedroom and in real life. Being in charge can be a power rush which a lot of people enjoy.
Sadomasochism is one large niche within BDSM which covers a lot of different subcategories. CBT is a common fetish employed by dominant/sadistic partners to use on their submissive. Some people enjoy BDSM because it feels like they are breaking a taboo of what you should and shouldn’t do.
Inflicting pain on someone who wants to receive it can fuel the power rush for dominants. I asked TaffDom to explain how he viewed sadism and what enjoyment he gets from dominating his submissive.
“Sadism is one of those things which is basically a way to be rough with consent which both people enjoy. It takes sexual aggression to the next level. Anyone can have a hard fuck or rough sex, but sadism gives (the Dom) enjoyment and gratification. There isn’t a power struggle as such but it’s more a means of control that allows for a power transfer. The submissive wants to be controlled and used to please the dom. Then they get their own enjoyment from the submission element of it. There are different levels which can apply to each situation.” TaffDom, 2019.
CBT – is it safe?
“To do CBT or any kind of BDSM safely, you need strong communication, trust and respect. Personally I wouldn’t recommend having sexual contact with someone if you don’t trust them. You shouldn’t be worrying about whether someone will respect your limits or not and then let them tie you up. That’s just reckless. Safe, sane and consensual BDSM is the best approach. When it comes to doing any kind of sadomasochism, you need to talk about limits and have a clear way to stop the scene if it gets too much. I strongly suggest agreeing a ‘safe word’ in advance or signal if someone is unable to speak… Knowing when enough is enough is key. You should start off gently before advancing any further. If you want to try trampling or ball kicking, it should be bare foot. I only wear heels during it if the sub is OK with that and knows their limits more. Being responsible as a dominatrix is important even if a sub says it’s a ‘no limits session’ – permanent damage isn’t sexy.” – Miss Carmelle, 2019.
Miss Carmelle’s comments above outline the importance of communication in staying safe. CBT is a more risky kink in BDSM which can cause more pain than pleasure if done poorly. Repeated impact on the genital region, in particular the testicles can cause bruising and potentially more long term damage than good.
If it’s something which appeals to you, trying it out can be a lot of fun and give a power rush to your Domme. Talk with your partner about what you enjoy and what level of pressure feels OK for you. Ultimately during the session, you should be able to tell her to stop at any time and her respect this.
Needing to be able to freely communicate is why using gags or anything which prevents speech isn’t ideal. Miss Carmelle explains: “During any game, I prefer to maintain eye contact and let my sub speak. Even if the scene requires them to remain compliant, when it comes to hard limits I want them to speak up. BDSM isn’t about abuse of power or doing whatever you want without consideration. Subs should feel safe and enjoy giving over power to their Dom/me for the session. Making sure there’s proper sex after care as well is good. When you start out with impact play, keep it light and check out the discomfort/bruises over the following hours/days/week. If they’re OK with that, then advance further next time. You’ve got to give your body time to respond and heal, otherwise you risk doing more damage quickly if you assume all is OK and don’t wait.”
CBT can be safe when you’re sensible about your own limits and respect your body. BDSM has a whole host of wonderful kinks to try, many of which are perfect for beginners…