I’ve been wanting to get into the serious discussion of threesomes and the huge amount of psychology behind it. MMF, MFF, MMM, FFF – there are so many variations and so many questions that arise. My first question, why is DP porn so popular? And why is it so popular with women? 

The act of double penetration is most commonly used to describe two men entering a woman, one in her vagina and one in her ass. It’s considered a genre onto itself in porn, although you can see it in other genres, such as gangbang. It’s considered “rough sex” and generally isn’t for the vanilla inclined viewer.

Statistics show that women search for it 83% more often than men. Surprised? I’m not, mostly because as a woman, I’ve searched for it a few times. In fact, there are quite a few forum threads dedicated to women confessing their DP porn love. It’s interesting to me because I’ve always thought it would be men who are into the rougher stuff.

When you think about it however, it makes sense. Men get off watching lesbian porn, or MFF porn. They like the idea of having two girls pleasuring them. Flip that over to women, then it makes sense that women enjoy fantasising about two men pleasuring her.

A lot of men also have the “one penis per fantasy” rule. Some are averse to double penetration because they believe it to be too homosexual.Obviously there are a lot of men who are into double penetration. Pornstar James Deen has explained in response to whether he believes DP is homosexual or not.

“The difference between a homosexual D.P. and a straight D.P… I feel like it’s the motivation.”

What’s the appeal in double penetration porn? For me personally, I watch it sometimes when I’m looking for something more intense. There’s the fantasy of being taken by two men, the dominance/submissive aspect, the freedom of letting the two men take control.

AVN award winner Anikka Albrite admitted in an interview that she cried during her first ever DP scene, but from very positive emotions overcoming her.

“It was just very, very spiritual almost. The passion I felt and the intensity. He (her husband Mick Blue) had never shared me with anybody and for it to be that intimate, I felt that it brought us closer even more.”

The fact is double penetration is insanely intense physically. I’ve only experienced it using toys, but even then it can feel overwhelming sometimes. There are pleasure spots in both the vagina and ass, and normally you’re only used to them being stimulated one at a time. For them to then be stimulated simultaneously, it’s obviously going to feel different.

One part of DP that I think goes a long way to making it popular is the idea that the girl is being filled. There’s something very possessive and primal about the thought of having both your holes filled up by two men. I’ve never experienced it myself, but when watching I feel a strange sense of satisfaction from the fantasy.

For most, DP is and will only ever be a fantasy. A lot of women still consider watching porn to be a bit taboo, and despite statistic showing it’s completely normal, they feel abnormal in their fantasies of group sex, double penetration and gangbangs. They are worried that by fantasising about something to get off sexually, people will think they want to try it in real life.

You should never worry about fantasising about something, if you know you don’t plan on doing it in real life. Fantasies are just that, fantasies. I fantasise about flying sometimes, but that doesn’t mean I plan to jump of a building in a wing-suit.

Studies have even shown that, “Women exhibit genital arousal to a variety of stimuli that they would not necessarily report as subjectively sexually arousing.” I think men could also agree there are times during porn that they find something arousing that they might not have originally thought as subjectively sexually arousing. After all, this is how people discover new fetishes right?

In conclusion, double penetration is popular, especially amongst women, because it shows a more intense form of sex, something we often look for when fantasising and trying to get off. There’s a sense of power play, of domination and also a hint of something taboo that draws us in.

  • Hippy4Life(18+)Cam4

    awesome write up HS .. “I think men could also agree there are times during porn that they find something arousing that they might not have originally thought as subjectively sexually arousing” I think the same for the ladies too .. you have to take it out of the box and just have fun .. who knows what will just blast you across the room 😉 … .. HS you have a 3 some write up in mind now … 3 guys i gal or 3 gals and 1 guy 🙂 ????

  • NeilW

    I find these pieces fascinating. This is a serious, rational, accessible consideration of a particular issue, and I find it difficult to take issue with any of its conclusions, particularly the notion that one should feel free to fantasise however one wishes to. I am the most vanilla of porn consumers, and anything involving the bum is usually cause for me to fast forward or switch to something else, although threesomes do hold an appeal as a viewer, so I anticipate the discussion moving onwards. As for DP – do please enjoy it if it’s your thing, but it isn’t mine.