When it comes to knowing how to use your mouth and fingers at the same time, it may be a bit daunting. Using your mouth during oral sex is a challenge in itself. Using your fingers on her is a whole other kind of foreplay altogether.
So combining the two may seem like a big ask when it comes to multitasking. Which we all know men aren’t meant to be that good at doing. Multitasking on the most basic level can be an awkward combination. Doing it when it comes to sex may get you all hot and bothered – without it being in a good way.
There are ways to use your mouth and fingers at the same time which can be smooth. But it’s easy to get carried away and make the whole thing more complex. When it comes to sex, sometimes doing less is more. Or at least doing the more simple things will make you both less sore!
Using your mouth
We’ve got plenty of advice on how to use your mouth to please a girl. Surprisingly not all of it includes oral sex. Using your mouth in the bedroom can apply to a whole range of activities, from dirty talk and kissing to oral sex and rimming. There’s plenty of ways to up your game.
It’s easy to overlook basics when it comes to using your mouth during sex. Remember these tips to increase your success and earn brownie points!
- Good oral hygiene – keep up brushing and floss, your girl and your dentist will thank you for it!
- Soft, smooth lips are more kissable – invest in some lip balm or borrow hers… it will make whatever you do more pleasurable.
- Stubble and beards – maintain your facial hair, having softer stubble or a well kept beard will help you in the bedroom.
- Fresh breath: carry some breath mints with you or use mouthwash before you get cosy.
- Smoking- if you smoke and your girlfriend doesn’t, make sure to freshen up afterwards!
Kissing
Start off by putting your money where your mouth is. Rather than just tell her how you’re going to use your mouth, do it! One of the first things you’re likely to do when it comes to sex is kiss, so get your first kiss technique honed. Luckily for you, we have tips on how to do the perfect first kiss from porn stars and even have a video for you to enjoy about their first kisses!
Kissing is a sensual thing which can get a girl turned on quickly. Start off with a light pressure, just pressing your lips to hers. Then slowly deepen the kiss to tongues- if you’re both comfortable with it. Don’t rush into a tongue sandwich but just moisten the kiss slightly before trying the tongue tango.
French kissing done right is an art form in itself. While you’re making out, you can run your hands over her body lightly and gently start to feel her curves. Being aware of where your girlfriend likes to be touched will really help you here.
Using your mouth for kissing still gives you plenty of scope to use your fingers. If you’ve moved into foreplay, you can pleasure your girl while still making out. It’s thought that a more relaxed mouth links to a more relaxed puss (Naomi Wolf, Vagina: A Biography). So relax into the kissing and as your girl gets turned on, you can turn your attention to her other lips…
As well as kissing and french kissing, you can use your mouth on other parts of her body while touching elsewhere. Kissing her neck and breasts while touching her pussy will likely turn her on more. Combining the pleasure of kissing with slipping your fingers inside her should make her catch her breath.
Fingers during oral sex
While your mouth is otherwise occupied, your fingers are available. There are some areas of the female body that often get neglected during sex but are sensitive zones themselves. You can pay attention to touching:
- The nape of her neck: the skin below her hairline and around her ears is sensitive, stroke it gently while kissing elsewhere or during sex positions like doggie.
- Ears: nibbling the lobes, circling the edge with your tongue and even a lightly trailed finger around her ears should create shivers.
- Small of her back: often ignored in favour of the buttocks, running your fingertips over the small of her back can create suspense.
- Underside of her knees: the skin here is very sensitive, running your tongue or fingers over it will tickle.
- Arches of her feet: squeezing the arches of her feet, running a finger over the soles and generally paying attention to this area can be erotic. Even if you don’t have a foot fetish.
A simple rule of thumb when it comes to touching a woman during sex is to start gentle and then slowly increase pressure. This allows you to increase the level of teasing and build up the pleasure. Plus it’s less likely you’ll hurt her by mistake.
When it comes to any penetration with your fingers, take care that your nails are short and not sharp. Accidentally cutting or jabbing your girlfriend in a sensitive area might not be the kind of S&M you had in mind! Keeping your nails clean is also important here and using a generous amount of lube.
Oral sex & Rimming
When it comes to oral sex and rimming it should be obvious how you can use your mouth and fingers at the same time on your girl. While you’re licking, kissing or sucking on one part of her body you might slip a finger in elsewhere. During oral sex, using both your mouth and fingers will really heighten her pleasure.
Naturally you want to avoid any oral sex mistakes and be eating ass to the best level possible. Choose the right sex position for oral to increase the pleasure. Find out which positions your girl likes best by talking about sex openly.
A lot of women get to relax more during oral sex if they’re in missionary. This gives you brilliant access to her intimate areas, a birds’ eye view and is easy to move onto sex from. By letting her lay back, she can relax rather than stress about holding an awkward position.
Missionary is great for going down on her pussy because it’s immediately accessible. You can use your mouth and fingers at the same time if you slip a finger inside to touch her G-spot. Or you could pay attention to her butt by squeezing her buttocks and possibly doing anal play there.
For rimming, having your girlfriend kneeling on all fours in doggie is helpful. But she could also lie down in reverse missionary if it’s easier. Letting her relax in posture will improve her experience of rimming especially if you hope to have anal sex as it reduces stress on her muscles.
If you’re eating her ass, you can touch her clit or finger her pussy quite easily. Using a vibrator on her vagina may also be popular while her breasts are also accessible. Find out what feels best for her and let her guide you during this.
It will become natural to use your mouth and fingers at the same time. Rather than try anything overly complex, find out what your girl likes and keep at it. There’s loads of ways to use your mouth and fingers at the same time during oral play.