Spitting during sex can be hot and sticky. But not everybody is 100% sure if spitting during sex is actually OK? Here’s everything you should know before saying out loud that “Spit in my mouth” line. 

As with any activity you should only do it if both you and your partner enjoy it. Spitting during sex can be hot and in moments of passion might feel like a natural thing to do. Plus spit can work as extra lube during certain moments and in some kinds of sex, it might really add to what you’re doing.

Plenty of porn videos show women spitting on cocks during sloppy blowjobs. Or have male performers spit on girls’ during oral or  rimming. Oral sex and spitting seems to be a match made in heaven, after all saliva is a pretty normal ingredient to anything involving tongues.

During sex, we exchange bodily fluids with our partners. When we kiss, we end up sharing saliva with the other person. So deliberately exchanging spit with someone isn’t really that big a leap from this. Spitting into someone’s mouth or on their body can be seen as an equally intimate thing.

Despite sex being a personal thing which every individual has different preferences on, some people think spitting during sex is wrong. Largely on the basis that they think it’s degrading, disgusting or just not sexy.

Why spit during sex?

Socially some people think spitting is a rude or disdainful thing to do. We’ve all seen films where the bad character spits on their victim as a mark of disgust. It’s considered a common ‘show’ of disappointment, anger, scorn and the like. So why would something dirty be included in sex?

Well specifically because it is kind of dirty. Sex lets us explore our deviant sides, the kind of things we wouldn’t normally do in public. But in private may enjoy. Spitting during sex challenges the slight taboo around it. Rather than being prim and proper, people can be edgy and push the limits.

Spit may be used as a kind of lube which we’ll discuss further next. But even if it isn’t being used for a practical purpose, it may still feature in the bedroom. Primarily as a show linked into power dynamics and as an intimate exchange.

During humiliation games, spitting on a submissive might be a mark of disdain. It shows that the dominant sees themselves as being more powerful. In true, consensual scenes the submissive should enjoy this aspect of degradation too. Perhaps even begging their dominant to spit on them and degrade them. The same reasoning behind spitting can apply also to golden showers play.

Spit as lube

Spit is often used as lube. It’s an obvious way of getting someone wet when you go down on them. Mouths, tongues and vaginas are all rather moist. So the combination naturally lends itself towards this.

It’s fair to say a lot of oral sex videos show porn stars spitting into the vagina, on the cock or ass hole of someone else. Usually it’s shown as a passionate, primal display of sexual desire which is considered positive. During oral sex, spitting is fairly acceptable and in blowjob scenes might be viewed as showing female power.

Using spit as lube is fine but depending on what you’re doing and how wet you both are, you’ll probably need to top it up with proper lube too. Especially for anal play and anal sex even if not necessarily for oral or vaginal intercourse.

Spit in my mouth

Spitting during sex can feature as part of domination and degradation play. When someone is being dominant, they may physically do things which assert their control over the submissive partner. Spitting happens to be a common example of this. Naturally there are some objections to this activity.

The dominant partner may spit on their submissive partner as a show of their superiority. It could be done in a passionate moment without any connotations of degradation. But in other circumstances, spitting on the face, into the mouth or body of a submissive, may say more than just passion.

In porn we’re used to seeing dominant males assert control over submissive females. As well as seeing the same happen in reverse with women spitting on men. During these scenes of power struggles or a Full Power Exchange within BDSM culture, the dominant figure will perform their role.

It’s hardly surprising then that some dominants do spit on their submissive. And that submissive partners are often happy to be spat on, especially in more ‘degrading’ ways such as on their face. The thinking behind spitting on someone’s face isn’t so dissimilar from the impact of giving a facial. It’s not so unusual to hear the phrase “Spit in my mouth” either.

All body fluids on the face favours the dominant partner and a willing acceptance from the submissive. Spitting in the mouth is arguably an extension of that which is even more intimate.

Of course when it comes to degradation, spitting is in the same ballpark as golden showers, bukkake and facials. Putting bodily fluids onto someone else makes them ‘dirty’, it ‘marks’ them with the trace of the other person – it plays into superior/inferior narratives.

So is spitting during sex ok?

Well on the whole, any activity during sex is OK if everyone is consenting, no one is harmed and there’s nothing illegal about it. Everybody is allowed a different opinion when it comes to asking ‘Is spitting during sex ok?’ But ultimately we’d say it is acceptable if everybody enjoys it and has agreed beforehand.

Don’t just spit on someone without asking, it is rude. But if you know they like it and are in the mood for it, gob away!

Have you ever spat on someone or have you ever used the infamous “Spit in my mouth” line?