Tantric sex is being talked about in social media almost constantly. Whether it’s a new celebrity endorsing it or some expert reviewing the benefits, we’ve all heard about it. But what exactly is Tantric sex and is it better?
Tantric sex began as a Hindu practice which views sexuality as an intimate spiritual experience. By forming a deeper connection to your partner, it is thought that Tantric sex can enhance orgasms.
Whether you want to try “Tantra” practices to develop your spirituality and awareness or simply to enhance your sex life is up to you. Exploring it is simple as it only needs you and your partner to slow down and enjoy all aspects of lovemaking rather than rush to orgasm.
Breathing
A key difference from ‘Western’ sex is to keep your breathing slow. While some people begin to pant or breathe quickly during sex, this can actually have the opposite effect to what Tantra aims to achieve. Especially when you breathe rapidly as you approach orgasm.
Instead of tensing up and breathing quickly, try to keep your breaths slow instead. You can try matching your breathing in time with your partner’s. Maintain eye contact with her while you place a hand over each other’s heart. Over a few minutes, try to synchronise your breathing and keep it slow and steady.
The idea behind this is to enable you to relax while also enhancing your connection. By relaxing your breaths, tension in your body should reduce and allow a more intense orgasm when you do climax. Slowing down should encourage enjoyment of each sensation and lessen any pressure you might feel during sex.
Flexibility
Tantra is thought of as being similar to yoga practices. Before you connect with your partner, it’s recommended to stretch out and change into more comfortable clothes. Try sitting on the floor rather than going to the bed immediately.
It’s thought that by having sex in the bedroom, there is a subconscious connection to the bed that makes our bodies want to sleep. Moving out of the bedroom should increase your excitement by trying something new while also detaching from the ordinary routine of going to bed.
Tantra links to the kama sutra where new positions may heighten your connection to your partner. Think of it as a kind of sexual yoga. The positions favoured by Tantric sex usually encourage more eye contact and may require greater trust between partners as the man supports the woman.
When trying Tantra, it’s advisable to avoid going for positions which usually make you climax quickly. The main goal is to enhance your connection and ultimately improve your eventual orgasm. By having to focus on the challenge of maintaining the position, you slow down and enjoy the sensations as you experience them.
Is Tantric sex better?
The main question you’ll all want to know is whether Tantric sex is actually better? Well while sex is down to personal preference and largely depends on your mood as well, Tantric sex is definitely worth trying.
When you want a more leisurely, slow and sensual encounter, trying Tantra is a good shout. Not only can it improve control over your orgasm while helping build endurance and stamina, but it also can increase your emotional connection.
We’re all in favour of anything which aims to improve sex. Getting to know your body intimately and understanding what you really enjoy is a good idea. What do you think about it? Will you consider trying it with your partner? Or are you more of a BDSM person?