We all go through dry spells, no doubt about it. But when we can avoid such frustrations, what are the warning signs? Here are the top 5 signs that your girlfriend wants more sex.
1. Masturbation
When your girlfriend plays with herself it can be for a number of reasons. She might just be in the mood for some fun but not want full sex. Or perhaps she does want sex but you’re busy or not in the mood yourself. Either way when she decides to get it on solo, she’s getting her rocks off. Great. You do the same thing. But sometimes it could be the case that your girlfriend wants more sex than you’re currently having.
If you suspect your girlfriend to be in the mood, don’t let the grass grow under your feet. Step up to the challenge and deliver with your di – dynamic charm.
When you do get down to it, you can always suggest some mutual masturbation or trying out something new as we discuss in this piece on erogenous zones.
2. Sexting increases
Maybe your girlfriend has started sending you saucy messages more often than usual. Or she’s just extra flirty. Sexting can be a massive hint that she’d like to get frisky. Rather than just playing phone sex, why not take the opportunity to respond to her interest in the flesh. Women are notorious for sending out hints. While men might prefer to be more direct about matters, sexting can be a clue that your girlfriend wants more sex.
Responding in a positive way will likely increase the odds of the two of you getting frisky. For pointers on how to make your sexting sizzle rather than go sour, check out our article Sexting fails guys make
3. Fantasies
Similarly to sexting, your girlfriend might start talking about sexual fantasies she has. Sometimes this is just pillow talk in discussing what turns her on but she doesn’t necessarily plan on doing it. At other times however this can be a suggestion to experiment with new things. Whether this is just having sex in a different position, place or is a new idea altogether.
Exploring fantasies can be a great way of spicing up your relationship. When your girlfriend tells you she wants to try something new, it could be a gentle nudge that she’d like more intimacy. Fantasies aren’t always about doing something radical, it could be as simple as,
“I’d love you to surprise me at lunch with a steamy session in the car park.” or just, “It would be so hot to get frisky immediately when we get home.”
Neither of these are major things but both suggest she’d like to connect with you on a physical level. If she wants sex more often than you do, presenting the idea of trying something new could be her way of asking for more sex without wanting to upset you.
Some popular fantasies might include: rimming, threesomes, bukkake or breath play.
4. Showing off lingerie
Whenever I go shopping, I inevitably send some snaps from the changing room to my other half. Not just to get his opinion (and hopefully his credit card!) but to tease him with what I’m buying. This has worked very well, usually more for his opinion and teasing! But in also getting him excited for when I get home.
It’s not always when buying new lingerie that your girlfriend might show off. If she’s being more flirtatious and provocative than usual by literally prancing around in her undies, it could be a clear sign for you to get it on. Lingerie can be a bit like peacock feathers, it is a way of getting someone’s attention and cannot be missed.
If she’s sending you snaps of granny panties, maybe it’s not quite sex o’clock yet but when she’s flashing you, it’s fair to say that the game is on!
5. Trying to initiate sex more
The most obvious sign that your girlfriend wants more sex is in her actions. Does she cuddle up to you with lingering touches or keep squeezing you in certain places? Maybe her hand wanders under your shirt while watching TV and slips just a bit too low. Flirting isn’t all about the small talk, a lot of the important stuff is in the body language.
When your girlfriend is enticing you into the bedroom, don’t brush her off. Not only will this lessen the likelihood of you having sex but it can also have an emotional impact too. So, if she is being seductive, enjoy it and reciprocate. Life is way too short for headaches or being tired!