The female orgasm is a beauty in itself. After all, what’s better than seeing your girlfriend in complete pleasure? Giving her it naturally ranks a close second. 

Female orgasms are different from the male orgasm in the very fact that women can have multiple orgasms whereas men get one shot to pop. It’s something men envy, after all once you’ve popped your cork you have to wait for your tank to refill.

Recovery time can allow for snacks, cuddles and foreplay until round two but in that time it also means your lady can have another female orgasm. That’s the beauty of a female orgasm, having one, two or three isn’t an issue for women. There’s no delay time or recovery period after one, multiple orgasms are real.

Besides the quantity of orgasms women have versus men, the mechanics behind it are different too. But knowing how is the female orgasm different from the male orgasm goes one step further than just stating facts.

The male orgasm

Let’s recap over a territory that should be familiar to you. The male orgasm, hitting the summit, popping the cork and any other phrase you fancy. Getting your rocks off is something you’ve likely been doing since you first found your penis. I.e all your life, knowingly or unknowingly.

Whether you’re playing solo, having foreplay or sex with a partner, you know that the male orgasm typically gives you one shot. It’s an intense urge usually combined with ejaculation which can get things a bit messy. There’s throbbing, increased sensitivity and possibly even over sensitivity after you climax.

Not owning a penis myself I have it on god authority that you can feel rather spent afterwards. It might only take you a few minutes to start stiffening up again for round two. Or more likely, it may take longer or even a couple of hours. It could be that once you’ve cashed in your orgasm, fun time is over for tonight.

In contrast for women it’s quite a different story…

Female orgasm

It’s a well known fact that the female orgasm can be elusive. At least to many men it seems to be that way. It can be a challenge knowing how exactly to make a woman climax. After all, it’s not quite as simple as getting yourself to cum. There’s multiple ways of pushing a girl to the brink of an O.

The female orgasm can be achieved through clitoral stimulation, vaginal penetration, anal and even through none of the above. Popular female erogenous zones include the nipples, clit and vagina as the top three. But as we all should know, there’s a lot more to it when it comes to how to make a woman tick.

Arousal starts off in the mind, if you can get your girl in the mood and turn her on you’re starting off well. For women, sex can be more than just a physical urge and often has more emotional and mental implications than for men. While both genders experience feelings around sex, women generally are more tactile and emotive during intimacy.

The main factors which influence the female orgasm therefore could be listed as:

  • Mental arousal
  • Emotional state and balance
  • Being relaxed (many women get anxious in bed and are unable to orgasm due to being nervous about it, giving your girl more confidence can help)
  • Clitoral stimulation
  • Vaginal penetration
  • Foreplay
  • Skill of their partner
  • Patience and time (women don’t always climax as quickly as men)

Naturally if you want to give your girlfriend any kind of orgasm there are foreplay mistakes to avoid, things not to say during sex which will annoy her and actual ways of making sex better for her. No pressure then…

Clitoral orgasms

We all know about flicking the bean to get a woman off. Playing and stimulating  the clitoris is just one way of creating a female orgasm. Oral sex, foreplay and sex toys are all meant to be helpful in achieving this goal. Although many women report that they can’t climax through clitoral play alone.

When you’re intimate with a partner, getting to know what turns her on is a major help. Especially if you hope to have any luck in giving her a clitoral orgasm. Oral sex is a popular way of pleasuring a girl through her clit. Knowing what you should be doing during oral sex and what to avoid is helpful here.

You can use sex toys on her clit such as vibrators or cock rings to give extra sensation there. While using your fingers in the right way can also work wonders. Yet a big part of the challenge is in finding the clit itself and knowing which areas are most sensitive.

Fortunately for you, we can tell you how to navigate her vagina the right way as told by an obstetrician-gynaecologist (vagina doctor).  When you find the magic button, talk to your girlfriend about what she enjoys most and let her guide you. After all, she knows her clit better than anyone else! (Yes, female masturbation is a real thing).

Vaginal orgasm

Another kind of female orgasm is vaginal. This can refer to an orgasm achieved just through internal pleasure during foreplay or penetrative sex. But can also link to an orgasm through the notorious G-spot.

G-spot’s seem to be a thing of myth and legend. As it can be harder to locate your girlfriend’s g-spot and to pleasure her correctly if you do. Typically orgasms achieved through this are thought to be more intense than clitoral orgasms alone.

Dr Dupree was enable to enlighten us on the subject of vaginal orgasms and the G-spot:

 “About 20-25 percent of women can have an orgasm with vaginal penetration alone, but most women need more direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. The area of sensitivity in the vagina is the ‘G Spot’, for which there is an abundance of discussion and disagreement about its existence — although, as most scientists would now agree, there is an area that may, for some women, produce intense arousal and orgasm. The G-spot is defined as an erogenous area about the size of a nickel located 2 to 3 inches inside the front wall of a woman’s vagina. Because of its approximate location, the G-spot can be devilishly hard to reach, especially in the standard missionary position.”

As noted, it can be harder to find the G-spot but if you do, your girlfriend will be a happy girl for it. Using sex toys which are specifically angled to reach the G-spot can be useful for this. The right toy might also increase the chances of female ejaculation/squirting if you get it just right!

‘Anything goes’ orgasm

Besides the two separate kinds of female orgasm mentioned above, women can also experience a blended orgasm. Which if done well, turns the world upside down. Of course it seems kind of unfair that women get to have multiple orgasms in a row and get to have more than one kind of orgasm.

But it’s life and when we go through period pain, child birth and everyday hassle – we deserve something good. The question of how is the female orgasm different from the male orgasm is a simple one. They are different with more complexity behind female orgasm than male but both can feel great in their own ways.

Whereas women may experience a buildup of pleasure which hits a peak gradually. Men can also enjoy this rush over a more intense, shorter period with one main burst. It’s thought that the male orgasm lasts between 3-10 seconds while the female orgasm can be 20 seconds or more.

But even if women have more complex orgasms, we don’t get to enjoy them as much as men. It’s thought that men get to orgasm 95% of the time during sex while women only hit the peak 69% of the time. Partly due to it sometimes taking longer for a woman to climax while men can cum sooner. Or due to the male partner not being as generous a lover as possible.

Orgasms should be enjoyed by everyone. So now you know the differences, go forth and claim the O, for you and your girlfriend…